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EXACTLY! They need to make it 2-0 at least.

DIDIER!!!

Allow even making a topic over this chick, waste of megabites & hard drive space. Find other women! don't think he stored the topic on his hard drive before making it don't think the topic would take a whole megabite Trust. Some of the things he has said in this topic is beyond my belief. Fair!

Go through this whole topic and tell me if I'm the only that has done that. What kind of question is that?

Well said. You could've said this easily first time. Kool though. Do you have a lack of understanding or what? Firstly you didn't read my opening post well enough because if you did, some of the comments you have made up to this point in this thread shouldn't have been mentioned at all. Secondly, you now think I'm asking you for a fight over a chick. WTF? Clearly your understand is a bit behind time. Did I not say if you wanna take this personal, PM ME STRAIGHT! I said this because of your motive to talk wreckless unnecessary and your third attempt of name calling. At this point, the chick has nothing to do with it. Your nonsense talk in particular has steered it away from that stage. I mentioned the word 'personal.' So now tell me how its coming across I wanna fight you over a chick?

As I said before and I'll say it again I made this topic because "I wanted to see other people's views from here if they can see where I'm coming from if they was on the receiving end of this" or not That's it. You definitely cant't fault me for that. So allow all this 'man up' talks. Seriously! First of all, I call you whatever name I wish. Second of all, nobody is crying. Your starting to talk a bit too wreckless for my liking as if to say your taking it personal with me. Now your calling me 'dumbarse.' Aight kool. If that's the case, don't even bother replying. You know where the PM button is, hit that so we can deal with it accordingly. One thing I'm not gonna do is go back and forth with you sending cusses on a forum, that's dead. If its that personal, we can deal with it elsewhere other than this forum or thread.

And your sounding even more of a d*ckhead just from your second reply. Who's chasing who? Where the hell did I say I was chasing the chick after we split???? Show me????? Your initial post was really moist, which leads me to think you are in the mindset to chase her. Leave it yeah, she's not worth it. If she was really spiritual she would have tried to marry you asap so she could have sex with you. But she didn't and let you poke a bit in. What makes you think she didn't let other guys before you poke a bit in but "because it didn't all go in then she's still a virgin." Your initial post about going all the way and poking in her pum doesn't make sense either. You f*cked her, thus, she went all the way. Man up and stop being such a woman about this. There are millions of bitches/women out there for you to wife, she's not one of them. I'm definitely not chasing her. That I can assure you. I never was chasing her in the first place either. I made references to this in my first post about her being the one to always want to be with me. I even also said after we split, "I never called her once for the whole of 2011, but she called me about 4-5 times." Another reference that I wasn't the one doing the chasing. "Fast forward to January 2012 now, she starts callin me again. Suggesting we meet up, go somewhere together and that she wishes we can still be kool" ^^Another reference nigger. I clearly was not doing any chasing so I'm really confused where you got the conclusion from that I was doing any chasing AT ALL whatsoever. You can see these quotes in my first post. LOL @ some of the people that have said man up. It was never a man down ting. I felt the situation was a disrespect, that's what I was expressing from the beginning. Not an emotional breakdown or anything like that.

And your sounding even more of a d*ckhead just from your second reply. Who's chasing who? Where the hell did I say I was chasing the chick after we split???? Show me?????

^^^Childish yout.

Fair enough to what you said Lens, but dont refer the 'no game' talk to me whatsoever. I'm not gonna get into detail on my rap sheet when it comes to smashing chicks but trust me, you would retract that statement if you knew me in real life. At the time I put her decision into consideration about not wanting to go all the way because of spiritual beliefs etc. Yes, I could've been more persistant about it, but during the relationship and as her man back then, I was playing the 'being patient' card. Not gonna lie. It just seems that after we broke up on bad terms, she ended up in a state where she couldn't find herself religiously. Her friends told me this not long after I came out but I didn't take any interest. @Woodpecker, what post exactly you referring to? I hear that Captain Planet, safe for your opinion too. To the people that think I'm in two minds about getting back with her are incorrect. I was never in two minds or making it an option to get back with her before I made this thread. I made this thread solely to get your opinions and views on the situation as some people where telling me before that I cant really say nothing because we weren't talking in 2011 and we weren't together anymore so I shouldn't even bother thinking about it, whilst other people where agreeing with me that the situation is a straight piss take. So I wanted to see other people's views from here if they can see where I'm coming from if they was on the receiving end of this. Simple! I wasn't expecting sympathy posts, just straight up real talk on your perspective of things and how you would handle the situation if you was in my shoes. I appreciate all the users that have posted their comments, whether it was positive advice or criticism. You kept it real with me, that's all I wanted. Right now as I speak, I'm actually more than bless than some of you lot think. My starting post may have come across as some emotional traumatised guy but its far from that, I had a lot to say and for me to have gotten your honest views I had to share the story in-depth as much as I could. But I'm kool now. My weekend was bless also, sexed one chick on Saturday night then sexed another chick last night. So with all that I've found out recently with my ex, its not effecting or holding me back from doing my ting. In terms of the actual ex now, she still tries to call and send me txts about still wanting to see me. One thing I didn't mention earlier aswell is that before she told me about this situation, she had been dropping sex talks on couple occasions on BB about her wanting us to sex. Little did I know that now she's gone all the way with some next nigger, she now feels ready to hit the jackpot with me. KMT! Thankfully, she only has my basher line and not my real line. I did this on purpose some months back because I could see myself one day cutting her off, knowing how we ended on bad terms with so much arguments. So it was possible that I saw myself arguing with her again down the line and if so, it would be easy to get rid of her. Now with the situation I've shown you guys, I stand even more glad that I only gave her my basher line.

Well said Mario & Mame. I've taken both your posts on board too. But by the way Mame, I never made this topc to get reassurance to get back with her. In my first post I stated that I don't have the same interest in her anymore and that I had given up.

Lol @ some of the last few posts. But yeh, as I said earlier. I've dropped off any feelings that I had for her and I'm gonna keep it moving. I could take the piss as couple people have told me to and just stick around temporarily so that I can get a bang in aswell, but that would definitely come down to pride's sake.

Noone's crying! Just feeling disrespected on how things were conducted from her.

I mentioned before about the name calling init. See my earlier post. Explain why you think that was the worst possible advice. He basically summarised the outline of the situation from his point of view and to be honest, a lot of what he said is reality. That's why I appreciated what he said.

Real talk to this post! Everything you said was on point. I appreciate your views bro. Thanks to everyone that's posted their views so far too. I've acknowledged some of the positive and constructive criticism that I've seen in this topic.

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I defo let her breathe during the relationship. If anything It was me that needed to breathe because of the way she always wanted to spend time with me and always call me bare times a day. Just that the opportunity she learnt how to breathe herself, she breathed a bit too much of the wrong influential scent and started adapting to it.

I agree with this. OP hasn't told us what the silly arguments are about but if they were about sex then she's not in the wrong at all and if they weren't then I'd say you've both lost. Nah, the arguements weren't about sex. The arguements started when she found a new job, which then her behaviour changed. Throughout the MAJORITY of the relationship she never had a job, so obviously this meant a lot more time on her hands to spend with me. To her, I was her world and her life was based on me. That's how close we got considering she didn't really have much friends too. But when she found a new job, it was like she all of a sudden grew up. Everything changed. Started acting too big because she was making her own money from work, making new friends from work, being invited to work parties etc, and because of the new female friends she made she became easily influenced by them. She would listen a lot to what they would say and take their relationship advice, which PISSED me off because who were they to judge or have an opinion on what goes on between me and her. But anyways, with this new working life she had and new friends she made I told her many times that her behaviour is changing and she's starting to become a little distant now. To her, she disagreed and thought I was overreacting. She insisted that she hadn't changed and that she was not being gassed by her new friends. But as a guy who watched her become proper close to me throughout the relationship at first, I knew what I was talking about. So continuously we argued many times about this everytime she would make a reference to one of her friends from work telling her this or that about the relationship. KMT!

This issue is big enough on my mind to not want to give it a second attempt anyway. I'll learn to move on.

Plz explain why Kurtis.

Ratings for this post. I appreciate your view there. @LS, me getting back with her definitely ain't on the cards. To be honest, this situation was basically the last straw. After I heard this, I've basically dropped it all off for her. As you said, it would be at the back of my mind. Its not worth going though it everyday if I was to get back with her. It really isn't!

^^^You could've easily said this the first time, minus the 'wasteman' talk because I can assure you there definitely is no wasteman stature coming from my life, so allow that. But appreciated to your post anyway, I see the points that you summarised there.

Uncle Man, your a d*ckhead. If you got any name callings to say towards me, address me via PM. Not in my thread! I made this topic to get other people's view on the situation. No need for a 'your a wasteman' talk. I hear that Seymour Cake, real talk.

I hardly come in this room but with a recent situation, I wanted to post this topic to see the views of other users on here or whether I'm just overreacting........... I was with this chick for about 9-10 months, she was 20 and I was 22 back then when we first met (start of 2010). Relationship was bless, we was mad close and feelings eventually got proper strong for each other. To be honest, we sincerely thought we was the one for each other and had found our match even though it had only been a few months. Prior to our relationship and before I met her, she had never been in a serious relationship before in her life and had never met anyone as serious as I was. She was also basically still a virgin. Her reason being because she was really focusing on her religion and the whole 'no sex before marriage' thing. Ok kool. So during the relationship obviously a lot of intimacy would come into it and we did find ourselves in scenarios where sex came up on the cards. Temptations towards me on her behalf grew stronger and stronger so eventually she couldn't help herself and decided to go the one step further. By one step further I mean, she was willing to let me put my piece inside her but as soon as I would put my piece at least halfway in, she moaned that it would hurt etc and her guilty conscience would kick in again and say that she feels really bad going against bible principles at that moment. Fair enough, I respected her decision that she wanted to be as spiritual as she could be and thought to myself in due time, when she's ready she'll be ready. This was basically the scenario EVERYTIME it got heated intimately between us two. Everything would run apart from a 'home run' with her. As a guy, clearly this got me pissed and frustrated but I didn't want show that side of me too tough to her, otherwise she would think I wasn't being considerate of her spirituality and would instantly think I was cheating. Anyways, fast forward towards the end of the relationship. Not gonna get into details how we broke up but we broke up on bad terms. Argued bare with each other, said some horrible things etc. We was basically mad pissed off with one another. I went inside for a few months (going towards the end of 2010) after we broke up, and I called her a few times from jail the first few weeks to make sure she was cool but could you believe that even from inside, me and her were still arguing during the calls I could make. KMT! Eventually when I came out things calmed down but we was still on bad terms so we didnt speak to each other for near enough the whole of 2011. I never called her once for the whole of 2011, but she called me about 4-5 times which we spoke briefly but nuttin happened. Other times when she would call throughout the year I would air her calls out. Just didnt wanna speak to her. Fast forward to January 2012 now, she starts callin me again. Suggesting we meet up, go somewhere together and that she wishes we can still be kool with each other. Basically wants me to still be proper a part of her life. She still turns to me for advice, help, favours etc. She still looks at me to help her out in anything she needs and wants me to still look out for her. So from January 2012 up till recently, we've spoken a number of times, she added me on BB and I've seen her on couple occasions outside. Just last week we sat down and proper evaluated what went wrong towards the end of the relationship and why we argued bare. That was discussed, kool. We then decided to go into honesty hour and be truthful with each other's love life since we've broken up. She asked me if I was seeing anyone and how many girls I've sexed since we broke up, I told her the figures but I'm not currently seeing anyone in specific. I then asked her too if she was seeing anyone etc. She said she's not seeing anyone too but there has been one or two guys that she liked and had gotten close with during the time we had broken up and not speaking to each other but nutting progressed with them. I thought fair enough. I then thought to myself let me go in straight and asked if she's had sex with anyone since we broke up. So I asked her, and her first reaction was 'No, No I havent.' I gave her a plainface and I told her to be rock bottom truthful with me and that there was no need to lie. So I asked her again, she paused for about 2 secs and then admitted that she's had sex with one guy last year. I thought to myself 'ok, what about your religion.' I said to her proper sex yh, she then came out and said yes, she went all the way with that guy. I felt disappointed and a bitter feeling in my heart. I was hurt, cant lie. I asked her 'so what happened to your so called bible principles?' She started chattin rubbish saying that at the time of our break up she felt mad down, angry at the fact that we broke up on bad terms, upset that we wasn't speaking, temporarily lost it spiritually and apparently this guy was around to comfort her. Lastly also, she felt she was too young back when we was together, KMT!!! She tried justifying herself that till this day she wishes she could've gone all out sexually with me and had not we broken up, she thinks she would've by now. The whole time I was silent, didn't know what to say. I was hoping for her to come out and say 'I'm joking, I only said it to see what you would say' but deep down I knew she was being honest. I felt both disappointed and disrespected at the same time. I've spoken with one of my close boys about this, and he agrees that it is hurtful to hear that but at the same time I cant really blame her. We was basically non-existent to each other for the whole of 2011 and its natural that she would like a guy in that time. Fair enough, that's understandable. But what is annoying is the nature that she did it under, especially the way she wanted to hold out during our relationship. Now she's gone and given herself to a guy that she don't even like now or talk to as much anymore. Before finding this out, I was seeing maybe sometime we could get back together. At this point, I don't even want nothing to do with her anymore. She messaged me on BB the day after asking if I hated her, I told her 'Nah. I'm kool. I've slept on it.' She replied 'so are you gonna go link a chick tonight then?' I just read it and ended the chat. My other niggers were even surprised lately that I was even entertaining conversing with her in the first place, considering the amount of links I've had the last few months. But to be honest, the care I had for her was a lot so no matter how many links I had I was still gonna be there for her. Now at this point I don't even have the same interest in her anymore. So yeh guys, that's the scenario there. Sorry for such a long post. What are your views on it? Am I right to give up on her or should I still stick around for her and give her the benefit of the doubt from the reasons that she explained?

Much appreciated for the download links JP.