Benicio del Toney Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 Forget the divorce point, thats gona get longbut I think youll find people who go to prison all the time, do hurt people they care about, parents, partners, children, theres even a few users on here who have been deeply affected by a jail bird father.They are fully aware of the hurt they cause to their own family but they dont stop in most cases because they cant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 met up with the ex on sunday evening , i figured out we are both as crazy as each other so what the heck, il see what he has to say.we just chilled at his place, watched i am legend and basically we was just talkin for ages.he seems to have changed , he has got a legit job now for a start,sorted out his anger problem. Did he hit you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 oh ye , my problem iserm i made a mistake when i was still seeing him ,should i confess all to him and tell him ?he says he wants to forget 2007though and start fresh in 2008. we both had serious issues and problems that year.when my friend came to pick me up ,we as outside as he was smokin a spliff , i just said right im off bye , then he goes , why do u always never give me a chance to say bye properly so i reverse back round and then he gives me a hug and a lil kiss.we should just let this go but for some strange reason , neither of us can.I think so, your last relationship failed with him so theres no point starting a new 1 unless its based on the truth, its doomed from the start otherwise.You arent together yet im guessing, so you have a chance to be completely honest with him before getting into a commitment, take advantage of this time while you still can.If he thinks its kool then you can move forward properly, he might even have a few things to tell you himself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 its kinda cool the way it is now. being just good friends, . theres no stress involved, so i don't want to create another crazy atmosphere again because i know if he finds out , he will just flip out.me and him constantly go round in circles but yet we won't let each other completely 100 per cent go. its so stupid i know.but then again honesty is the best policy i guess. he probably has a few skeletones in his closet. met up with the ex on sunday evening , i figured out we are both as crazy as each other so what the heck, il see what he has to say.we just chilled at his place, watched i am legend and basically we was just talkin for ages.he seems to have changed , he has got a legit job now for a start,sorted out his anger problem. Did he hit you?kind of , i swung the first hit that night , we sorted it out the next day as we were both ashamed of our childish behaviour and couldn't believe the arguement had took such a drastic turn. it happened months and months ago , its all in the past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 9, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 luca ive decided not to tell him, i know for a fact he will flip out and act all crazy. what he dont know won't hurt him, right ?plus its all in the past , why bring it all up to cause more caos ? im looking to the future now. it was nice to just chill with him the other night as friends but he wants to start from scratch and take it slowly.he says hes changed and was just stressed with sh*t last year , he apologized for how we have ended up but i guess it just wasn't meant to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kurtis Posted January 9, 2008 Report Share Posted January 9, 2008 if its worth my whilebut im not really to waste time, so if i feel that it is that then ill jus say f*ck it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Black Casper Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 to be honest, you should not have even considered it in the first place, if your planning to move on, just do it and cut off any loose ends you have....if you personally knew (even a slight thought) that it was gonna bring more chaos...you shudnt of wasted your time with it @ LuLuwhen it comes to second chances relationship wise, if a chick cheats or plays silly games with me there are no second chances...chicks that have wasted my time in the past and I have completely locked them off..if i saw them on road I would not acknowledge them in any way...kinda harsh..but thats how it has to be done...ain't about a girl tryna take me for Carltonoverall tho, it does depend on what the person has done to me to consider giving a second chance. If its something minor, then I may consider it. I always distance myself from people who I know will cause drama..ain't got time for all that right nowand like what Toney said...some ppl just never change Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 10, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 * thinks * Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Benicio del Toney Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 luca ive decided not to tell him, i know for a fact he will flip out and act all crazy. what he dont know won't hurt him, right ?plus its all in the past , why bring it all up to cause more caos ? im looking to the future now. it was nice to just chill with him the other night as friends but he wants to start from scratch and take it slowly.he says hes changed and was just stressed with sh*t last year , he apologized for how we have ended up but i guess it just wasn't meant to be.But is there any chance he can find out?Cos imagine you 2 do get together and he finds out somehow, its gona put you in a worse situation than if you told him now while you arent together.I think you should just tell him over the fone.I know you dont wana do it, or go thru the agro but sometimes the best things to do in life are the hardest things to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anti social Posted January 10, 2008 Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 People can change-yesPeople deserve 2nd chances-yesThe question is; can you really get over what the person did in the 1st place...you can forgive but you never forgetTook the words right off my keyboard. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 10, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 10, 2008 luca ive decided not to tell him, i know for a fact he will flip out and act all crazy. what he dont know won't hurt him, right ?plus its all in the past , why bring it all up to cause more caos ? im looking to the future now. it was nice to just chill with him the other night as friends but he wants to start from scratch and take it slowly.he says hes changed and was just stressed with sh*t last year , he apologized for how we have ended up but i guess it just wasn't meant to be.But is there any chance he can find out?Cos imagine you 2 do get together and he finds out somehow, its gona put you in a worse situation than if you told him now while you arent together.I think you should just tell him over the fone.I know you dont wana do it, or go thru the agro but sometimes the best things to do in life are the hardest things to do. if i do tell him over the phone or even face to face, that would just create some serious drama because he had suspiscions about something months and months ago but i persuaded him to believe otherwise so he would get mad at the fact i denied it the first time round.he says once ive moved back , we can start over again etc etc but im just thinkin arrrgh i dont think its a good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuLu Posted January 24, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 24, 2008 okay luca i kinda took your advicewell i attempted to tell him over the phone but as soon as i brought * you know what happened between us last year * line , he just completely changed the subject sayin just forget about what happened about last year , i don't want to discuss it.i dunno its like somehow he already knows or maybe he has some secrets of his own.fcuk knows, im just gona forget about any guilt i felt and move on with or without him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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