Seth Rollins Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences? You've come out of a long term relationship, it's been a couple months (granted time is different for everyone), you meet someone who seems to be what you're looking for.How would you approach/handle this situation? You really like this person, and they would make a good girlfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qks Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences?1 ive done this but i didnt know about the whole ex situation tiill i got with her me thinking its ove it aint gonna be a problem .WRONG this shits always a problem . he had some problems or some sh*t n her spoke to her blah they were getting closer then i kinda clocked wah gawn n it was getting out of controll n sh*t endednow shes with him again now not sure what would of happend if we stayed togehter but i dont think about that Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Black Casper Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Question 1:No I cud not enter a relationship with her still habouring feelings for her ex. I will feel as if Im wasting my time with her cause all she thinks about is her ex. To get with a girl, there has to be no loose strings, all her ex's must be cut out of the equation. Had a girl in the past I was seeing and she secretly had some feelings for her ex, after a while, I found out that she was still talking to him on a regular basis and he was trying to get back with her...and she was having it all too. So i left her, couple of days later....she was back with himQuestion 2:I would have to let the girl know straight up what I'm looking for and not waste time with anything. I would have to make sure that she wants what I want. Question 3:I am kinda in this situation now, she is sweet, would make a good wife and all.....but deep down I cant be with her...I cant really explain why. She does alot for people and has a good heart...but when I picture us together its like..."im not too sure if it will work"....I just don't think it will happen. She wants us to happen badly and sees alot going for us...but I cant really see it going that far. So I wud not enter a relationship with her..as it will just lead to feelings beings hurt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LIQUID Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences? You've come out of a long term relationship, it's been a couple months (granted time is different for everyone), you meet someone who seems to be what you're looking for.How would you approach/handle this situation? You really like this person, and they would make a good girlfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. tried it before when i was wet behind the ears and still relatively green to the game. straight up and down... its a problem. from feelings are there u just cant win u really are settings urself up for a fall. all they golla do is start talkin again an booom u get dropped like its hot an they back together. if ur unlucky they get back together behind ur back an u get played. BEST LEFT ALONEyh i'd get invloved cah bwoi, u cant look at every person in terms of who ud marry because u wouldnt date, no one would ever be good enuff. not to mention as time goes on ur perception of people and scenarios change, so what u dont see as marriage material today, u might see as marriage material tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smaddy Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences?yh, this kinda shiit is happenin to me right nowhow can i walk into the room and he points at this picture of some bitch on the wall and goes "i used to love her"yea? is it?, why is she on the f*ckin wall then, WHYsomething i really cant get over to be honestthen i asked, months later, so have u ever been in love beforei got the quickest no i had ever heardanyway, thats a proper different situation, and i would advise anyone in it to not get involvedat the same time tho, as we get older, people are gna tend to have been in love before and had long term relationships, and really jus had a life before you met themwhich means baggageso you cant expect to much, you have to know what your gettin into and know whats right for youi dont think you ever really stop caring about someone, even if your not "in love" with them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 i dont think about these things i just do it and go with impulse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seth Rollins Posted January 21, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 i dont think about these things i just do it and go with impulse.Well for the sake of this topic I would LIKE you to think about it.I'm not asking you to when this situation arises, i'm simply asking you to do so NOW.Thank you.Goliath OnDeckz. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodie Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 put it this way if i like the person ill get into a relationship cos no amount of knowledge that i THINK i know or that the girl tells me will match what is going on in actual fact you only know the person with time and that time is not something that people wait for if you didnt know them from teens.basically im saying ill go ahead with it but with my cards close to my chestNO MEETING OF PARENTSONLY BEING SAFE WITH 1 OF THEIR FRIENDS AFTER EXTENSIVE RESEARCH OF WHERE THEIR HEAD IS AT (any other friend gets AIR)NO NO NO NO NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MEETING OF MY SON UNTIL HE IS IN SECONDARY SCHOOL ON THE VERGE OF LEAVING AND GOING UNI AND THEM TING THERE (there is no need for them to meet him until they have been with me for say 5 plus years then they can meet him)NO STAYING IN MY YARD WHEN I AINT THERENO SHE AINT GETTIN MY HOUSE NUMBERbasically ill make her my girl in her own little world but socially for the sake of damage limitation (MY EGO AND REP AND MOST IMPORTANTLY MY PRIDE) i will not put her in any kind of position to hurt me or put me in a bad situation.all of the above goes for your first question goliath and if a girl sees this as unreasonable and she dont wanna WAIT for me to GRANT her these PRIVELEGES then she can leave the building and try plan b.as for the second ill move on quick i aint gazin i dont mind being single but if i see a next chick i like im on this ting simple.NEXT QUESTIONi dont look on ANY girl as marriage material until i actually FEEL LIKE getting married and i dont wanna be married now so i aint gonna think about if they are marriage material cos thinking this in real time is HERE AND NOW you could think she is marriage material now and 3 years later she may not be.and thats my input on REAL TALK to your question goli. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Messy Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences?i dont think i could because it would send my me into paranoia also id be thinking he could never love me fully whilst still having feelings for his ex. You've come out of a long term relationship, it's been a couple months (granted time is different for everyone), you meet someone who seems to be what you're looking for.How would you approach/handle this situation? You really like this person, and they would make a good girlfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. after a couple of months i dont think id be in the frame of mind for a full on relationship so maybe i would just take each day as it came and just enjoy spending time with that person and see what happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodie Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.just goes to show girls cant handle the truth so they shouldnt expect to hear it or even ask for it.nah seriously that pissed me off if EVERY MAN knew about EVERY BIT OF ANTICS THAT HIS GIRL DID ONCE UPON A TIME do you think ANY of you would be wifey at any stage in your life?why else you think girls love the NUMBER 3some double standards up in this.kmtFOOLISH.im not saying YOUR a fool im saying THAT is FOOLISH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dipset Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Care to share any experiences? You really like this person, and they would make a good girlfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Been in a similiar situation like this .. wouldnt go into it a relationshop like this. Would rather wait until they seem emotionally stable and abit over the ex, plus u never know if they will get bk tgether or not.AndThe 2nd bit .. Yeah i would, simply because things can change. and you gotta take chances at times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LIQUID Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.just goes to show girls cant handle the truth so they shouldnt expect to hear it or even ask for it.nah seriously that pissed me off if EVERY MAN knew about EVERY BIT OF ANTICS THAT HIS GIRL DID ONCE UPON A TIME do you think ANY of you would be wifey at any stage in your life?why else you think girls love the NUMBER 3some double standards up in this.kmtFOOLISH.im not saying YOUR a fool im saying THAT is FOOLISH.every man on the planet will co-sign that oneBARS Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodie Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.Truss me, i dnt have grim stories to tell. He's probably slept wit more girls than i have guys in the last 2 years.I no its the past and to be honest, it really aint got much to do wit wat he's done, but im jus sayin it makes me think more that i cnt see myself being wit him for a long term relationship. Its more to do wit the way he is. I dunno, i cnt put my finger on it.I need to stop being so judgemental n give the boy a chance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seth Rollins Posted January 21, 2008 Author Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.Truss me, i dnt have grim stories to tell. He's probably slept wit more girls than i have guys in the last 2 years.I no its the past and to be honest, it really aint got much to do wit wat he's done, but im jus sayin it makes me think more that i cnt see myself being wit him for a long term relationship. Its more to do wit the way he is. I dunno, i cnt put my finger on it.I need to stop being so judgemental n give the boy a chance. Exactly.Looking excuses, and probably slacking off with the effort as well.Appreciate the fact he even told you.From a mans willing to tell you everything, he wants you to STILL want be with him, after you've heard everything there is to know about him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marlon Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 basically ill make her my girl in her own little world but socially for the sake of damage limitation (MY EGO AND REP AND MOST IMPORTANTLY MY PRIDE) i will not put her in any kind of position to hurt me or put me in a bad situation.Co signage. I do this to pretty much all girls I meet. You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.LOLSorry, but I can understand if you didn't know that he had cheated, or had heard it third party.But from time you heard it direct, and you're planning to get involved with someone who you know cheated on their ex and has "slept with more girls than you have man in the last 2 years".Females man, I love them. Too easy to get away with sh*t these days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FACE OFF Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.Truss me, i dnt have grim stories to tell. He's probably slept wit more girls than i have guys in the last 2 years.I no its the past and to be honest, it really aint got much to do wit wat he's done, but im jus sayin it makes me think more that i cnt see myself being wit him for a long term relationship. Its more to do wit the way he is. I dunno, i cnt put my finger on it.I need to stop being so judgemental n give the boy a chance. probably use that an excuse to do the same thingCHEATif ya wary demote him or end it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jodie Posted January 22, 2008 Report Share Posted January 22, 2008 You really like this person, and they would make a good boyfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Let's discuss. Im in this situation right now. See i really like this person but i really cnt see myself being wit him for soo long. I dnt no why.I think i will still enter a relationship wit him jus to basically see how far i get and if my mind will change.responses like this compliments my thoughts on doing what i do when i want cos others CLEARLY DOi mean is a girl gonna tell you YOU AINT HUBBY MATERIAL?i rest my case.I'm not saying he isn't hubby materia, but theres jus something about him which makes me feel like i cnt see myself being with him for so long.From when he told me he cheated on his ex, it puts him in a darker light.foolish you telling me that you dont have more skeletons in your closet more grim than that that you have not told him?its the pastdoes he knows EXACTLY how many men you slept with in the pastdoes he know if you had any one night standsetc etc you see where this is heading?yet you are judging him on THAT something that you know about from JUMP yet ya wary.Truss me, i dnt have grim stories to tell. He's probably slept wit more girls than i have guys in the last 2 years.I no its the past and to be honest, it really aint got much to do wit wat he's done, but im jus sayin it makes me think more that i cnt see myself being wit him for a long term relationship. Its more to do wit the way he is. I dunno, i cnt put my finger on it.I need to stop being so judgemental n give the boy a chance. probably use that an excuse to do the same thingCHEATif ya wary demote him or end it.Nah ill allow cheating.2 wrongs dont make a right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cipher Posted January 26, 2008 Report Share Posted January 26, 2008 Could you enter a relationship with a person knowing or thinking they still harbour feelings for their ex, EVEN THO, they and you know it's definately over?Don't think so.Care to share any experiences? You've come out of a long term relationship, it's been a couple months (granted time is different for everyone), you meet someone who seems to be what you're looking for.How would you approach/handle this situation? Do you buss shines? You really like this person, and they would make a good girlfriend, BUT, deep down, you know you couldn't see yourself being with them for the long term (marriage etc). Would you still enter a relationship with them?Nah not at all, I am all about the long term, I won't enter a relationship that I dont think is going nowhere, to me that is just stupid & pointless. To me the whole point of the relationship is to progress to get to that stage to get to marriage/family etc...If I cant see that happening, then I wont do it.If im gonna do that, might aswell just be in relationships with grims for the ffact I could get all the sex I wanted..Let's discuss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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