Guest Van Der Wavy Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 TBH, the LOGers of the world>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Need to find her a man.who else can c/s this?Lol, what is that supposed to mean...exactly what i said...Lol, this guy... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Uncle Man Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Just wanted to drop in on this topic and share my views quickly.TBH MissBee I think you're being way too idealistic.As a woman, I dont think I can personally juggle both a career and coordinating a household with my husband and children successfully. I will never be able to give both my best, and IMO family must come first every single time.TBH I feel very pissed about the way I planned my life, when I was younger all I wanted was to be a doctor so thats what I strived for.Now that I'm in the process of getting there do I realise what I've got myself in for, do I realise how much it could jeopardise my main purpose of parental/wife status...Which is why now I'm looking to other avenues of making a success of myself which would not take me away from my kids...f*ck having 0000000's in the bank whilst my kids are being raised by some nanny...it must never be that time...I was raised by my mum and so the pattern must continue.There's some women who say ''its the 21st century, women can have it all'' but these are the same women that say women and men are equal, and 'why are we hoes if we sleep around?'IMO these women are DAZED AND CONFUSED.strong post tbh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
violet Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 logers dropped bars Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carpedeum Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Just wanted to drop in on this topic and share my views quickly.TBH MissBee I think you're being way too idealistic.As a woman, I dont think I can personally juggle both a career and coordinating a household with my husband and children successfully. I will never be able to give both my best, and IMO family must come first every single time.TBH I feel very pissed about the way I planned my life, when I was younger all I wanted was to be a doctor so thats what I strived for.Now that I'm in the process of getting there do I realise what I've got myself in for, do I realise how much it could jeopardise my main purpose of parental/wife status...Which is why now I'm looking to other avenues of making a success of myself which would not take me away from my kids...f*ck having 0000000's in the bank whilst my kids are being raised by some nanny...it must never be that time...I was raised by my mum and so the pattern must continue.There's some women who say ''its the 21st century, women can have it all'' but these are the same women that say women and men are equal, and 'why are we hoes if we sleep around?'IMO these women are DAZED AND CONFUSED.is it you who had/has the very controlling boyfriend? your post has completely left out the support a man should give to a woman he wants to spend his future with who wants to fulfill her dreams and goals. there are many women who are very able to juggle family and career, but they will also need their man's support. you will most likely get what you seek and settle for still, so best wishes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Van Der Wavy Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Argh this guy Carpe had to f*ck it all up now... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carpedeum Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Argh this guy Carpe had to f*ck it all up now... lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Da Luv Doc Posted August 1, 2008 Author Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carpedeum Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 I see where Mike Kane is coming from.Career Women think that they control the main driving force of teh relationship, and when they have children the guy has to agree with otherwisde he's "bad". Why should you chase your dreams whilst the dreams of your partner or placed on hold because he wants to do stuff with you? Every decision whilst in a relationship should have your partner in account, irregardless how small, but it should still be part of a deciding factor.Career women in short think too much about progressing themselves and not the relationship, which is why you have black films where they haev a black career woman struggling to find a black man with his sh*t together.true to an extent, while sometimes the real reason is that the men they meet are intimidated by their aspirations. from a personal POV, there are many career women in my family, or that i know of very well and mostly the balance has been right. like my uncle told me once... he said why the f*ck should a man be shook that his wife has got a PHD....? at the same time, society wise we are just more selfish and rebellious with each generation, so there are many women who just do NOT want to balance career and family. sometimes its bcos of what their mother's went through, or what they grew up to be accustomed to in this celeb driven society. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ankle Murda Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 Argh this guy Carpe had to f*ck it all up now...LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
o-guy Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 i also believe certain guys, aspiring towards a city type careerare being unrealistic about what type of father they will probablywhen my cousin worked at a big london law firm typical daythere by 9.30 was still there at 7.00, sumtimes even 10.00a man that works those hours, what type of father do u think he will be to his kids? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soca Junkie Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 I wanna know how Denzel Washington and his wife does it... he's an actor... she's a lawyer... sh*t must be hectic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Van Der Wavy Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 i also believe certain guys, aspiring towards a city type careerare being unrealistic about what type of father they will probablywhen my cousin worked at a big london law firm typical daythere by 9.30 was still there at 7.00, sumtimes even 10.00a man that works those hours, what type of father do u think he will be to his kids?True but that's just the way it is...Things will never be the same...That's just the way it is.....Ohhhhhh, yeaaaaaaaaaaaah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ego Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 im lookin to find me a country bitch still... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelo Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 i also believe certain guys, aspiring towards a city type careerare being unrealistic about what type of father they will probablywhen my cousin worked at a big london law firm typical daythere by 9.30 was still there at 7.00, sumtimes even 10.00a man that works those hours, what type of father do u think he will be to his kids?9.30 to 7 isn't a lot of hours at all to be honest...Certain times I've come into work at 8, and still been eating the pizza we ordered in at 10I know it depends what industry you're in, but you'll find even in a lot of average to mid range paid jobs, 9.30 to 7/8/9 is a relatively common occurrence... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LOGers Posted August 2, 2008 Report Share Posted August 2, 2008 Just wanted to drop in on this topic and share my views quickly.TBH MissBee I think you're being way too idealistic.As a woman, I dont think I can personally juggle both a career and coordinating a household with my husband and children successfully. I will never be able to give both my best, and IMO family must come first every single time.TBH I feel very pissed about the way I planned my life, when I was younger all I wanted was to be a doctor so thats what I strived for.Now that I'm in the process of getting there do I realise what I've got myself in for, do I realise how much it could jeopardise my main purpose of parental/wife status...Which is why now I'm looking to other avenues of making a success of myself which would not take me away from my kids...f*ck having 0000000's in the bank whilst my kids are being raised by some nanny...it must never be that time...I was raised by my mum and so the pattern must continue.There's some women who say ''its the 21st century, women can have it all'' but these are the same women that say women and men are equal, and 'why are we hoes if we sleep around?'IMO these women are DAZED AND CONFUSED.is it you who had/has the very controlling boyfriend? your post has completely left out the support a man should give to a woman he wants to spend his future with who wants to fulfill her dreams and goals. there are many women who are very able to juggle family and career, but they will also need their man's support. you will most likely get what you seek and settle for still, so best wishesLOL Carpe Carpe Carpe.My credentials mean that I am destined for great things, IF I SO CHOOSE.I know I could be a career woman, of course I would expect the love and support of my partner.I'm not saying its impossible to carry it out, I'm saying its impossible to juggle both and give both your all.I want to support my partner, thats the way I see it, don't get it twisted though, I've already put the wheels into motion which will mean I will not have to 'go out and work' but I'll still have my own achievements and investments.I don't doubt for one second that my partner won't support me in that.Just because I want to be able to look after my household doesn't mean I want to be braindead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Da Luv Doc Posted August 3, 2008 Author Report Share Posted August 3, 2008 Allow having an Angelic from rugrats mum tbh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Afroman Posted August 3, 2008 Report Share Posted August 3, 2008 Boooy in this day and ageIts not selfish as such. A woman should always have something she can fall back on career wise. God forbid you passed away. How will she coupe?..On the other hand most career women I knowstruggle to have a relationship and some dont even bother seeking one. The common thing am seeing lately is men playing house-husband. Roles are reversing. I can never play that role. But some women dont actually mind that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARLO STANSFIELD Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 just know that two kids is the max you should have in this case Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
o-guy Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 i also believe certain guys, aspiring towards a city type careerare being unrealistic about what type of father they will probablywhen my cousin worked at a big london law firm typical daythere by 9.30 was still there at 7.00, sumtimes even 10.00a man that works those hours, what type of father do u think he will be to his kids?9.30 to 7 isn't a lot of hours at all to be honest...Certain times I've come into work at 8, and still been eating the pizza we ordered in at 10I know it depends what industry you're in, but you'll find even in a lot of average to mid range paid jobs, 9.30 to 7/8/9 is a relatively common occurrence...u missed me pointi'm not sayin 9 to 9 is bare hoursbut if u work in the city most likely u gonna be out of the house before your kids wake up, and most kids are alseep at 10 until the age of atleast 9 or 10sofrom monday to friday u spend about 5 hours with yur kidand best believed u could get called in on the weekend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Van Der Wavy Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 Boy...All I know is, yes, they work but know where your priorities lie... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARLO STANSFIELD Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 i have come to the conclusion that i am gonna be a house husband so i better make sure i do all my power moves NOW before my girl gets pregnant for me i told her about his very same scenario and she just didnt really understand where i was coming from.long for expecting her to not be a carear chick in 2008 girls are gonna be girls and women are gonna be women regardless if its gonna be their own downfall WE MEN cant stop them they want to do all these things (examples yeah).GO NAPABE CAREAR CHICKSHAVE 3SOMESBE LIKE MENBE BI SEXUALETC ETC leave em to it it it will be their own downfall when men of substance reject these women as we dont crave for companionship as much as them as we have more choice than them and also it took 5 of us for missbee to only KINDA understand and you can be sure when the crossroads come for her to make her choice she will then brush it off as "CHA WHY SHOULD I LISTEN TO SOME GUYS ON THE NET ANYWAY"so how ill deal with it is like thisUNTIL one of us are around more time so the kids dont go into a scenario like the one i stated before i am NOT giving out no sperm to my missus i aint persuing a career that will take me away from whats important and i have other things for me to earn from and im not a big spender no more and have never been materialistic.on a real women WILL NOT listen they feel they have been held back for generations cos of what our fathers and uncles kept up back in the day so now WE MEN of today will suffer.just how it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Van Der Wavy Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 on a real women WILL NOT listen they feel they have been held back for generations cos of what our fathers and uncles kept up back in the day so now WE MEN of today will suffer.just how it is.Real talk. Irks me differently. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARLO STANSFIELD Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 thing is i dont see why a woman born in the 80s would take credit for that hardship these carear women that WE are reffering to didnt even suffer what our mothers and aunts suffered they are just filtering thru what they have been told from older women thats why women always make themselves out to be such victims of circumstance.like i said ill just hold back from any woman that i feel will go on like this cos trust me a lonely woman is more common than a lonely man and that is real talk from one of the older users of this forum women get DESPERATE which is why they end up going overseas to find a mate cos us man aint having it.cha i dont even know why im complaining any more no one cares except guys with old school values and these days this forum is full of guys that would allow their girls to be best friends with gods gift scorcher and ghetto so f*ck it.only a few guys have standards in todays modern world. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
o-guy Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 anywhoi aint sayinanyone shouldn't go for a demanding careerzu i certainly willall i'm sayin is be honestabout where your priorities lie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MARLO STANSFIELD Posted August 4, 2008 Report Share Posted August 4, 2008 boy lol @ a man remembering birthdays and school plays before the motherlol @ the fact that in 2028 it will be kids saying "my mother was never there for me" as supposed to what we here about guys and their kids now.truss i can see it and it WILL hurt a woman much more to know her child that came OUT OF HER thinks like this of her.a guy that has kids that resent him = heartache and him getting a new family to heal his woundsa woman in the same scenario = suicide attemptswomen aint BUILT for them tings deh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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